my buddy called me the other night to say she couldn't come visit in october because she's swamped. we chatted about the weekend. i saw an ex (from several years ago) this past weekend. i told her i wish i was a bigger person and that i wish i acted like i was over him, but i see him and i have no desire to speak with him and i can't bring myself to go start a conversation. she said all that is required of me is to not be rude if he comes to talk to me. that is all that's necessary to be the bigger person. sometimes you jsut need someone to say something that simple to make things ok. i'm glad she called!